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Moving Forward

Recently, in our lives there have been many things to grieve, divorce, death, relationships, world problems and the current state of America.

We aren’t going to offer an opinion on the world’s problems or America; politics or otherwise. We’ll leave it to the media and the internet to misinform you.

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It seems as we age that sorrow comes into our lives more often. We shed more tears, reminisce more often, sit alone in silence. It may seem odd to find joy in grief, but it is usually there nonetheless.

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Both Sherry and I have lost both parents; we both took care of our aging parents at one point. If at first this seemed somewhat of a burden, in the end in it was a blessing. It allowed them to stay in their homes surrounded by the things and people they loved, letting them be at peace.

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For us, the gift was the ability to move forward in our relationships with them, seeing them not so much as a parent but as a friend. I’ve always felt that it helped me to repay the years that they devoted to me even though they did not expect any payment.

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In divorce, after grieving your loss, there is a sense of freedom, a re-bonding with yourself and friends that may have been neglected along the way.  Your bond with your children changes as they see you in a different light.

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There is pain in loss and we are all entitled to experience it. Feel, bemoan, embrace your grief and when you are ready actively seek out the joy that your loved one, your ex-spouse, or ex-friend left in you. Rejoice in your memories and get out there and make more!

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Here’s to a happy life! 🍾

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MaryBeth & Sherry

 

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How to Survive the Big M

Yep! We’re talking menopause.

While researching menopause causes, symptoms and the treatment/prevention of the aforementioned, we’ve come to certain inevitable conclusions:

There is no known prevention for menopause. We know, we know, for the most part we don’t mind the end result of menopause, but, by golly, isn’t there a way to avoid the discomfort? Nope, just like exercise, we got to go through it to get to the end result.

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After thorough Internet research, here’s what we’ve learned.

 

Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause hot flashes.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause insomnia.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause joint pain.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause night sweats.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause mood swings.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause weight gain.

Okay, now that every man has groaned and uttered “Ewwww” and left this blog, let’s talk turkey.

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Sorry to say menopause appears to be a fact of life for most women. And if you think about it, for their partners. They enjoy it vicariously through us. You’re welcome. Did you all honestly think we were going to go through this without you?

(Insert evil laugh here)

Okay, we are done laughing and back to this blog.

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As you can see by our bullet points above, the best thing you can do is avoid eating or drinking anything and everything. Difficult, we agree, but think of your waistline!

Based on the fact that we enjoy eating and drinking, we’ve decided to put together our own list of do’s and don’ts.

How to avoid or lessen the symptoms of menopause.

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Do go through menopause with a buddy or two. This is the safest way. Keep your buddy on speed dial for emergency texts and calls.
Don’t decide for your buddy what they can and can not eat. This prevents injury to yourself and others.
Do go out with your girlfriends and laugh. This eases any and all symptoms
Do go out with your girlfriends and their significant others. The sympathetic nods amongst the significants makes them feel like part of the team. (Did we just call menopause a team sport?)

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Do live near a nice cold swimming pool, lake or ocean. Do feel free to take a plunge at anytime. Do not feel free to do so naked. Alternate solution: Keep your bathtub full of cold water at all times – Do feel free to take this plunge naked.
Do take anyone who says “oh c’mon, it’s not that bad!”, to a local sauna, sit with them until they get up to leave, pull them back down and say “nope,not done yet” and “oh c’mon, it’s not that bad!”

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We sincerely hope this helps .

Read this book for more humor on Menopause .

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And this one for safe and natural ways to balance your hormones.

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Here’s to a Happy Life!

MaryBeth & Sherry

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How To Be Interesting?

I recently came across a book titled “How To Be Interesting” or something to that effect. I only vaguely remember the cover and title, I have no idea who the actual author is.

I thumbed through the book quickly to get an idea of its contents and/or ideas. Some of the suggestions were eavesdrop, maintain eye contact, smile or laugh easily and often.

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There are whole blogs to be written on just those 3 suggestions, so just a quick note. While eavesdropping is considered to be rude, often in tightly packed places, it is unavoidable. The author’s point was that you can learn a lot about someone this way and then engage them in conversation based on what you overheard. I’d proceed cautiously with this one.

Maintaining eye contact is consider rude in some cultures and is known to make some people very uncomfortable. However, in a one on one conversation with someone you know this would definitely indicate that you are actively engaged.

As to smile or laugh easily and often, it may well make you interesting as people will wonder what you are up to! They may even be inclined to come over to you and ask. That would be interesting.

In my opinion one of the best way to be interesting is quite simple – Be a Listener. When someone talks to you, LISTEN. If you truly listen to what someone is saying to you, then you can respond appropriately and start a good give and take. Now you are both involved and interested!

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It seems obvious to me that most of us want someone to listen to us. Obvious because isn’t the dominance social media the perfect indicator of this need?

We strive through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Whisper among others to voice our opinions, our emotions, our concerns. Likes, comments, re-tweets, etc are indicators of our success in being heard. Social Media is here to stay, but it’s impersonal for the most part.

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Social media means I can’t watch your facial expressions or catch you at an unguarded moment. I can’t feel your energy nor hear your laughter. Do you need a hug? I’d rather do that in person not by liking and sharing. Wouldn’t my being there in person to interact with you make both of us much more interesting?

What do you think makes others interesting? Let us know in the comments, we’d truly like to know.

 

Here’s to a happy life!

MaryBeth & Sherry

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The Importance of Girlfriends

Taking a short vacation with your girlfriends should be a mandatory once a year excursion, although who would argue with taking several a year?

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We recently returned from a 3-day trip to La Jolla, CA. Eight women in a 3-bedroom house with ocean views within walking distance of beaches, shops and restaurants. It was heavenly.
Each of us is on a different life journey right now, which makes the camaraderie of girlfriends even more uplifting. Being with your girlfriends gives you the freedom to express feelings you may not otherwise be able to.

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Advice, laughter, good food and a few drinks helps to create great experiences and a lifetime of memories.

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Friends give you the courage to try things you wouldn’t ordinarily try. For MaryBeth, that was ocean kayaking. A singularly terrifying proposition, I was buoyed by the fact that there were 2 life guards and a very experienced kayaker in the group. With their promises to keep me safe, out we went. I am so happy that I tried it and guarantee you it will never happen again.

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We had two items to take care of before arriving, 1) bring a small inexpensive gift for each member of the group; 2) bring a picture of yourself at age 18-20. The pictures brought laughter, compliments and a lot of “look at my hair!”

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The gifts were fun way to break the ice and well thought out. Satin eye masks with witty sayings, linen spray, a RFID wallet, a travel journal, a small jar for sand and shells, and a tiny metal starfish reminding us to be grateful for our journeys. Each gift received was embraced and the giver complimented for the thought they had put into it.

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Friends who rejoice in your accomplishments, boost your ego and refrain from the negative create a rejuvenating experience. They remind us there is a time for every season whether it be silly or serious and above all, a time to boost each other up with an understanding that is often missing in our every day lives.

Thank you ladies, it was a blast!

Here’s to a Happy Life! ☀️

MaryBeth & Sherry

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For Love of Family

We’ve reached that phase where life starts to come full circle. Whereas you used to take your children to your parents for baby-sitting now they bring their children to you. And just like you did, they give you instructions on how to care for your grandbabies. It doesn’t matter than you managed to raise them pretty darn good, their way is the formula you must follow now, or at least until your children are out of earshot!

The first time we watched our granddaughter, my step-son gave us very clear instructions. We were to hold her on our shoulder and walk continuously as this is what she preferred. If on the off-chance she fell asleep, we could sit, but under no circumstances were we to allow her to see or hear the TV. (Boy, did she have them trained!)

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We willingly obliged, right up until their car pulled out of the driveway. Then we sat, talked and cooed to this wondrous little doll until she fell asleep in Papa’s lap. At that point we turned on the TV, relaxed and watched. Naturally, as soon as we heard the doorbell ring, signaling her parents return, we shut off the TV, arranged that precious bundle on a shoulder, walking to the front door as if we’d been walking for hours.

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Another sign of life’s circles is to us the tougher one. The caring for aging parents. I helped care for my Dad for 7 years before he passed. This journey is at time frustrating and unwelcome, other times it’s laughter and joy. At all times, for us, it is an act of love. Caring for aging parents can seem like a labyrinth for which there is no exit and a new surprise at every turn.

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Often, there is anger from your parent because the tables are turned, they start to feel like the child and you the parent. It doesn’t take much of a stretch of the imagination to understand why this is so difficult for them. If there is a defined illness or pain, they become irritated with new regimes and medications. Your parents feel the lack control and they have to idea how to get it back. There might be a loss of activities with their contemporaries, making them feel isolated and confined. If their journey includes dementia, Alzheimer’s, memory or cognitive loss of any kind, they may not understand what’s truly going on.

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Coming from that perspective helped me to better understand my Dad’s disposition and make an effort to focus on laughter and helping him take part in those things he could still enjoy. Being surrounded by his family made him the happiest.

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All in all, being on this side of the circle (yes, the older side, haha!) is one of the most rewarding parts of your family life, helping you to see your parents in a joyful new light, having your children as friends and allowing you to spoil your grandchildren. Actually, there’s no reason you can’t also spoil your parent at this time, I know mine certainly deserved it.

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How do you or your family deal with this new aspect of life? Let us know in the comments, you may help someone else gain new perspective.

Here’s to a Happy Life! 🍻

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A Christmas List – Gift Ideas for Her

Recently, while hanging out with a group of friends, the stress of giving and getting Christmas gifts came up. What does she really want?  What will he actually use?

So we asked, what would you like to receive?  Below is a list of gift ideas for her from their responses. We will do a gifts for him blog too.

These laptop cases have style and make her life a bit easier.

Laptop Carrying Case – Bellino Mason Messenger – this bag is faux leather and gets great reviews. The strap is adjustable for either shoulder or cross-body. This bag works for men or women. The price is great too!

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Looking for a more colorful case? Try this one – McKlein Women’s Tote – this one is leather and comes is a nice variety of colors for her.

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For the High-End Gift Giver try this Prada bag – Prada

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Are you a jewelry giver? How about this simple yet elegant necklace? It’s perfect for either the office or a night out.  Black Pearl Necklace.

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The forecast for this winter is COLD! How about some warm items to help her survive?

These Muk-Luk items are perfect when you are outside on a cold winter’s day. I’ve given these as gifts and own a set myself. Muk-Luk 3-in-1 Gloves and Muk-Luk Trappers Hat

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These hat is perfect when you need warmth but desire a more fashionable look. Crochet Hat

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(A side note – if you haven’t yet shopped on Etsy.com please do, these shops offer so many unique items.)

You can pair either of the above accessories with this Cold Weather Coat – Columbia TurboDown Jacket

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Finally, a little something for her long winter’s nap.

These pj’s are incredibly soft and comfortable while still providing warmth – Gisele Long Pajamas  or if you live in a warmer climate Gisele Shorts Set 

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Comfy Slippers?  Minnetonka Cally Slipper or Bob’s from Skechers Slippers

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These gifts sweeten the atmosphere while provided a romantic glow. Himalayan Salt Lamp or Honest Organic Candle

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We learned that when it comes to choosing a gift for someone the best way to figure out what they would really like is to listen. Most people unwittingly give clues in conversation.  What would you like for Christmas this year?

Here’s to a Happy Life!

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🎁MaryBeth & Sherry

 

 

 

Welcome Back!

It’s fall. Where did the year go? It seems the older you get the quicker time flies. It doesn’t really, of course, we just pay more attention then when we were young. We cherish life a little more each day and that’s a good thing, there’s still have so much to experience!

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We are at an age when our kids still depend on us to help with what we can (let’s face it, that will never change!) There are weddings and babies and jobs and new homes and well, just life.

We find that friends, family and…. you are important. We have talked to a lot of people in our age group, men and women who are taking a step back trying to refocus on life and what it really means.

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Our focus this coming year will be on what we’ve heard and what we’ve learned…

And adding new experiences; we’ve had great lives so far, although not without a learning curve, from here on out we are simply enhancing it.

Cause your never to old to learn!!

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Here’s to a Happy Life!!
MaryBeth and Sherry. 🙂

The Case of the Missing LookBook

Like so many of us, I was a student of the Nancy Drew/Hardy Boys school of  sleuthing, so when I didn’t receive my lookbook from Keaton Row as expected the mystery began.

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As you may recall from The Lion, The Witch and My Wardrobe, I had followed-thru on a blog written by Lucky Shops regarding personal shoppers. One of their recommended sites is Keaton Row.

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As requested, I had filled out Keaton Row’s questionnaire, which consists of questions and picture choices. Once the questionnaire is complete, they assign a stylist based on your answers.

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Individual stylists have lookbooks you can browse before deciding who you work with. The original stylist Keaton Row chose for me… well, let’s just say I studied her lookbooks and NO! Our taste in clothing could only be described as dissimilar.

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Just kidding. This is not from a Keaton Row stylist, the person who did design these outfits probably looks adorable in them.  Hmm, maybe I could have an alter ego – Nona Punk?  I already have the purple in my hair. But I digress.

Since Keaton Row’s chosen stylist didn’t work for me, I  browsed through all their stylists and their sample lookbooks to choose my own.  I chose Markee Benton, requested a lookbook and waited for my email notification it was ready for viewing. And waited some more. After a couple of weeks, I thought “Do they send an email notification or am I supposed to check back on the website?” I checked the website, nothing.  I again requested a lookbook, only to get the same result.

I’d pretty much given up on Keaton Row and began my blog on on-line Personal Stylists.  Yet, the lack of response from Keaton Row nagged at me so like a good disciple of Nancy Drew, I decided to go back one more time.  Perhaps Markee Benton has looked at my questionnaire and said “NO!” “I can’t style this woman!” (Who can blame her? I’d done the same thing with my original stylist!)  Truly, I have no idea what happened to Markee.

However, being a professional company, Keaton Row had assigned me a new stylist, Sara Reardon. I put the blog on hold and requested a lookbook from Sara. She came through almost immediately. I had asked her for an updated look in denim. I received an email shortly after stating my lookbook was ready. In addition, Sara sent me a personal email to get a better feel for my personality as well as what I was looking for. This was more of what I had expected originally.

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Sara’s lookbook for me consisted of 3 pairs of jeans,

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7 blouses (love #’s 3 & 5)

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and 1 complete look.

Screen Shot 2015-06-08 at 3.59.49 PMNaturally, I don’t like everything Sara chose but I do believe that Keaton Row and their stylist, Sara Reardon did a great job delivering on what they promised. These items are more in keeping with what I would wear as well as what I asked for.  Keeping the lines of communication open with Sara should lead to a lasting relationship as well as a fabulous wardrobe!

Afterword – If you try Keaton Row, we’d love to hear about your experience.

 

Light(en) up the Holiday Spirit

S and I decided to pump up our Christmas spirit by driving through nearby neighborhoods to see the Christmas light displays. We chose a relatively warm Colorado evening so that we could make Golden’s awesome river-walk and the thousands of lights strung there our starting point.

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Our stroll was relaxing if not a bit brisk. The gentle sounds as the water flowed past, an occasional dog barking, laughter in the distance all while being bathed in the colorful light, made the walk so serene.

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My favorite is and always will be the giant tree in front of the visitors center. I am in awe of the work it must take to deck out that tree.

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A big thank you to the workers that make it so. It is breathtakingly beautiful. This year they decorated the trees in the park too.

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Beautiful!

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After visiting the river-walk, we stopped for appetizers before starting our drive-by viewings. Of course, stopping to eat means an hour or so of girl talk coupled with lots of laughter, which also helps get us in the Christmas mood.

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So often we spend so much time preparing for the Holidays that we forget to stop and enjoy the efforts of others.

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I admit to decorating my house both inside and out, not only for myself but for my neighbors and my visitors. Whether you choose to decorate or not, please feel free to drive-by and enjoy mine. Isn’t that what we are saying when we light up our homes? I have gone almost completely solar for outdoor decorations along with using LED lights inside as I dislike the January power bill if I don’t!  Ha!  Candles work well to create the right ambiance too. I truly hope it makes anyone who sees it happy.

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Some choose a whimsical theme, while others opt for more traditional. It makes no difference to us, they are all uplifting.

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The meaning behind the holiday is what’s important, where our focus should be. The spirit of giving, sharing, caring. Each of us expresses our interpretation of its definition in our own way, whether it be in our decorations, our greetings or our mood.

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Our evening was a success, we managed to get back into the spirit of things, now we can move forward enjoying laughter, food and libations with friends and family while reminiscing about past memories, and planning new ones.

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We’d be interested in hearing where you go to see Holiday displays, we are always up for a road trip!

 

Damn that Wild Hair!

S and I had a hysterical conversation the other day about that frickin’ single facial hair that pops up so randomly, the one we like to call The Wild Hair. Yes, we do crack ourselves up!

Do we all have them? That one hair that grows independently on some odd spot on your face. Usually the most noticeable spot. Is it really that noticeable to others or is it that once we figure out its there we fixate on it?

Sure, we have every intention of plucking it, but until we get back to our tweezers and a mirror, what’s a girl to do?

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The smart thing would be to ignore it, haha! Instead we touch it, focus on it, pull at it and more.

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We suspect men only get that wild hair in their eyebrows. At least that’s where we notice them. Women? Not so lucky. They sprout wherever they please, on your chin, your upper lip, middle of your cheek? No problem, the wild hair is always happy to oblige especially if you are heading to an important engagement.

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The wild hair loves to stand out, therefore it generally comes in thicker, longer and coarser than all the others. What better way to be noticed, not only by yourself but by everyone who comes close to you.

Which brings us back to the question, do others really notice or have we become obsessive about it? Someone once told us, “It’s just part of you, an addition to your personality.”

You’re kidding right? Looking like the evil witch from Hansel and Gretel or Snow White’s apple bearer adds to my personality? Cue the warts? Thanks a lot.

Truly, how did this wild hair become so prominent in our lives that we actually have conversations and write blogs about them?

Another menopause mystery…

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