Tag Archives: Over50

Writer’s Block

There is always something going on in my head, but every now and again, I simply can’t find a way to express it.


Has this ever happened to you? What is your method for overcoming this block?


I don’t find it a bad thing, this loss of train of thought. I sit back and wait for the train to come full circle. It always does!


Often, once it pulls back into the station of my mind, I am thinking about it differently, making it easier to put thoughts into words.


So, here I sit here patiently waiting for the train to arrive.


On another note, we will be embarking on a  road trip to California shortly, we will be hauling a trailer full of household goods back, and there lies the adventure. Neither of us has pulled a u-haul before! We will be sure to let you know all the fun (read funny) details of our 1000+ miles trip.



Sherry and I thank you for reading, liking and commenting on our blog.



Here’s to a Happy Life!


MaryBeth & Sherry 📝









How to Survive the Big M

Yep! We’re talking menopause.

While researching menopause causes, symptoms and the treatment/prevention of the aforementioned, we’ve come to certain inevitable conclusions:

There is no known prevention for menopause. We know, we know, for the most part we don’t mind the end result of menopause, but, by golly, isn’t there a way to avoid the discomfort? Nope, just like exercise, we got to go through it to get to the end result.


After thorough Internet research, here’s what we’ve learned.


Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause hot flashes.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause insomnia.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause joint pain.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause night sweats.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause mood swings.
Anything and everything you eat may or may not cause weight gain.

Okay, now that every man has groaned and uttered “Ewwww” and left this blog, let’s talk turkey.


Sorry to say menopause appears to be a fact of life for most women. And if you think about it, for their partners. They enjoy it vicariously through us. You’re welcome. Did you all honestly think we were going to go through this without you?

(Insert evil laugh here)

Okay, we are done laughing and back to this blog.

no eating

As you can see by our bullet points above, the best thing you can do is avoid eating or drinking anything and everything. Difficult, we agree, but think of your waistline!

Based on the fact that we enjoy eating and drinking, we’ve decided to put together our own list of do’s and don’ts.

How to avoid or lessen the symptoms of menopause.


Do go through menopause with a buddy or two. This is the safest way. Keep your buddy on speed dial for emergency texts and calls.
Don’t decide for your buddy what they can and can not eat. This prevents injury to yourself and others.
Do go out with your girlfriends and laugh. This eases any and all symptoms
Do go out with your girlfriends and their significant others. The sympathetic nods amongst the significants makes them feel like part of the team. (Did we just call menopause a team sport?)

Do live near a nice cold swimming pool, lake or ocean. Do feel free to take a plunge at anytime. Do not feel free to do so naked. Alternate solution: Keep your bathtub full of cold water at all times – Do feel free to take this plunge naked.
Do take anyone who says “oh c’mon, it’s not that bad!”, to a local sauna, sit with them until they get up to leave, pull them back down and say “nope,not done yet” and “oh c’mon, it’s not that bad!”

We sincerely hope this helps .

Read this book for more humor on Menopause .

menopause sucks

And this one for safe and natural ways to balance your hormones.



Here’s to a Happy Life!

MaryBeth & Sherry

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Damn that Wild Hair!

S and I had a hysterical conversation the other day about that frickin’ single facial hair that pops up so randomly, the one we like to call The Wild Hair. Yes, we do crack ourselves up!

Do we all have them? That one hair that grows independently on some odd spot on your face. Usually the most noticeable spot. Is it really that noticeable to others or is it that once we figure out its there we fixate on it?

Sure, we have every intention of plucking it, but until we get back to our tweezers and a mirror, what’s a girl to do?

tweezer and mirror

The smart thing would be to ignore it, haha! Instead we touch it, focus on it, pull at it and more.


We suspect men only get that wild hair in their eyebrows. At least that’s where we notice them. Women? Not so lucky. They sprout wherever they please, on your chin, your upper lip, middle of your cheek? No problem, the wild hair is always happy to oblige especially if you are heading to an important engagement.


The wild hair loves to stand out, therefore it generally comes in thicker, longer and coarser than all the others. What better way to be noticed, not only by yourself but by everyone who comes close to you.

Which brings us back to the question, do others really notice or have we become obsessive about it? Someone once told us, “It’s just part of you, an addition to your personality.”

You’re kidding right? Looking like the evil witch from Hansel and Gretel or Snow White’s apple bearer adds to my personality? Cue the warts? Thanks a lot.

Truly, how did this wild hair become so prominent in our lives that we actually have conversations and write blogs about them?

Another menopause mystery…


Your Hair, Your Choice

Have we all had a Mom that cut our hair into a “pixie” because it was the style and she was tired of combing the knots out of it? We have and we have shed many a tear over it.

MB’s brother had a bright idea when they were 4 and 5. He’d give her a sucker if she agreed to him cutting her hair. When she looked in the mirror, talk about tears! All her luxurious long curls, gone! We are sure most of you have had a similar experience.

Women and their hair are tightly entwined. So much of who we think we are ties into to our hair. And yet, someone else always tries to dictate what you should do with your hair. It’s personal! Let us decide what makes us feel good. And no more tying aging to hair style.

We are so glad that we are getting out of the thought process that when you get older, you cut your hair short.  We really think that you should wear the hair that looks good on you at any age.  If you have always had short hair and like it, then you should wear it that way.  Same for long. In conversations with men we have learned that they don’t understand this phenomenon. They don’t think a woman has to cut her hair just because she is older, We like those men.  We have always had long hair and until it thins out or, maybe we can’t raise our arms high enough to fix it, we’re staying with it.  We can’t do a lot about the wrinkles, but, we can keep our hair long, our nails done oh, and our minds and bodies active!  Come on four out of five ain’t bad!


All your comments are gratefully appreciated.

Free the Spirit, Fight the Wrinkles

If wrinkles must be written upon our brows, let them not be written upon the heart. The spirit should never grow old. ~ James A. Garfield

As you grow older, you fight for somethings like your family and friends, you give up on others, like wrinkles and an aging body. Our spirits revel in people, emotions, celebration and not things. Oh but those wrinkles. You look in the mirror and think – “Who is that!?!” As you go through your day, the picture you see in your mind of you is wrinkle-free. Crow’s feet? Those are for someone else, not me! Lip lines and sagging and gray hair, oh my!

There’s an old saying, if you want to know how old someone is, look at their hands. Well, damn, it’s true. We’re still young enough that we can place our hands so they look wrinkle free. The drawback of leaving our hands at this angle is that eventually they will cramp. You know exactly what we’re talking about ladies! What is up with that? Not to mention that people may start looking at us strangely. What are they looking at? It’s a personal anti-aging technique.

Ok, you secretly wish you didn’t have to give up but the alternative is to go “under the knife.” Because let’s face it, you can use all the wrinkle lotions you want but once they are there… ! It might be in our best interest to nurture our spirit and quit worrying about the wrinkles. After all, we’ve earned every one and so have you.

Most everyone will tell you, a good diet, exercise and sun screen are the best medicines for aging woman.  Some celebrities would tell to keep a plastic surgeon on speed dial!

Wait, Wait, Wait, did we just refer to ourselves as aging women?

Did you ever notice that those people with a kind heart, a free spirit, or strong purpose rarely look their age. That’s what we are striving for; to stay young at heart and bold of purpose.

We are always looking for ways to fight wrinkles, yet, as we drift further into our 50’s, we are also looking for ways to continually nurture our spirits. And while this is a noble cause, we’d really like to nurture our spirit with younger looking faces. The heart wants what the heart wants.

Please help us – give us your ideas and thoughts on both of our goals.


Everyone has times of self-doubt, for a woman over 50, it can hit often due to our ever-fluctuating hormones. We look in the mirror and see wrinkles instead of character. We step on the scale and beat ourselves up for putting on a few. A family member makes a remark and we see it as harsh criticism and so much more.

Today a beautiful woman told me that “menopause memory” makes her feel so stupid, something she had never consider herself before. And there you have your 50’s in a nutshell, we begin to see ourselves so differently, often so negatively. We’d like to propose an alternative.

Let’s delight in the 50 or so years that we have survived on this earth. Let’s look back on our lessons with gratitude and focus on what’s beautiful. What would that be you ask? YOU! You are beautiful!

Let’s use our hard-earned wisdom, even if it takes a moment to come back to us. So what? It is often said that it is best to pause before we speak. We should thank our brain for helping us with this.

When we put on our bifocals, we’ll be grateful that they allow us to see deeper and clearer, to read between the lines.

Jeans tight? Whatever! There are a myriad of reasons why this might be, far more than the overeating and lack of exercise excuses.

Did someone make a kind suggestion that could be construed as otherwise. Say thank you! Thank you for caring enough about me to try and help me. Thank you for showing me how much you value me. Thank you for letting me know you are an ass.

Delight in age and all it entails. I want to grab this bull by the horns and run with it! I am slowly learning how to focus on the positive, point out that the best is yet to come and go for it!

You can find more of Jonathan Lockwood Huie’s inspirational messages at: http://www.jonathanlockwoodhuie.com

How do you focus on the positive? What’s your next goal? Which negative stereotypes would you like to debunk?

Flirting Over 50

I’m waiting at the retail counter today with a handsome man in his 40’s.
I think I look pretty good today. I’ve managed to nicely camouflage my facial wrinkles with make-up shading, flash a brilliant smile, my gray hair professionally colored and highlighted to create the impression that I, too, am in my 40’s, and a chic, trendy outfit.
I am feeling confident.
We strike up a conversation, share a few laughs, and basically, kill the time, flirting harmlessly. As I shift to get something from my purse, out fall my glasses. Damn, will he notice they are bifocals? He tells me I have dropped my glasses. Great, maybe, he didn’t.
We continue our bantering, while wondering if this line will ever move. My mind runs along the lines of continuing this conversation over coffee.
Finally, the line begins to move, as we prepare to go our separate ways, he says, can I ask you something a bit personal? Sweet! Here comes the invitation, I think.
My Mom’s new in town and looking for friends, I think you two would really get along. Where do women of your age hang out?

POP! There goes the fully inflated balloon of my illusion.

Life Over 50

Welcome to our blog. We’ve chosen to write about our journey as 50-something women living in a 40-something mindset. S and I will share our experiences and what little insight we may have gleaned from them and we hope you will share yours.

Life over 50 should be joyful. We are 50+ women experiencing life in a new way nearly every single day. In this circus we call aging, we have found laughter, tears and pure frustration. We’ve been married, divorced, unemployed, employed, paid our taxes, dated, cared for aging parents and through it all we have remained cheerful (most of the time, please don’t fact this statement!), loving, and generally, handle ourselves in a lady-like, dignified manner. The F-bomb and S-word have crossed our lips but once or twice. Our children have reveled in just how well we’ve done in our trials and tribulations, actually, they’ve constantly questioned our sanity!, Okay, okay, you’re right, we have cursed, ranted, cried, but mostly we laugh. But what is life if not expressing yourself to the fullest.

Dye your gray! Botox! Plastic Surgery! Yoga! Zumba! Honestly, the anti-aging fight is everywhere. While we do dye our hair, exercise and try to eat right, we don’t want to fight aging, we want to embrace it. At some point, we may consider more. We will laugh about aging, vent about it and generally try to figure out how to wade through it with our sanity intact.

Please join us. All of your comments are gratefully accepted.