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For Love of Family

We’ve reached that phase where life starts to come full circle. Whereas you used to take your children to your parents for baby-sitting now they bring their children to you. And just like you did, they give you instructions on how to care for your grandbabies. It doesn’t matter than you managed to raise them pretty darn good, their way is the formula you must follow now, or at least until your children are out of earshot!

The first time we watched our granddaughter, my step-son gave us very clear instructions. We were to hold her on our shoulder and walk continuously as this is what she preferred. If on the off-chance she fell asleep, we could sit, but under no circumstances were we to allow her to see or hear the TV. (Boy, did she have them trained!)

Now we have 2!

Now there are 2!

We willingly obliged, right up until their car pulled out of the driveway. Then we sat, talked and cooed to this wondrous little doll until she fell asleep in Papa’s lap. At that point we turned on the TV, relaxed and watched. Naturally, as soon as we heard the doorbell ring, signaling her parents return, we shut off the TV, arranged that precious bundle on a shoulder, walking to the front door as if we’d been walking for hours.

Precious little fairies

Precious little fairies

Another sign of life’s circles is to us the tougher one. The caring for aging parents. I helped care for my Dad for 7 years before he passed. This journey is at time frustrating and unwelcome, other times it’s laughter and joy. At all times, for us, it is an act of love. Caring for aging parents can seem like a labyrinth for which there is no exit and a new surprise at every turn.

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Often, there is anger from your parent because the tables are turned, they start to feel like the child and you the parent. It doesn’t take much of a stretch of the imagination to understand why this is so difficult for them. If there is a defined illness or pain, they become irritated with new regimes and medications. Your parents feel the lack control and they have to idea how to get it back. There might be a loss of activities with their contemporaries, making them feel isolated and confined. If their journey includes dementia, Alzheimer’s, memory or cognitive loss of any kind, they may not understand what’s truly going on.

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Coming from that perspective helped me to better understand my Dad’s disposition and make an effort to focus on laughter and helping him take part in those things he could still enjoy. Being surrounded by his family made him the happiest.

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All in all, being on this side of the circle (yes, the older side, haha!) is one of the most rewarding parts of your family life, helping you to see your parents in a joyful new light, having your children as friends and allowing you to spoil your grandchildren. Actually, there’s no reason you can’t also spoil your parent at this time, I know mine certainly deserved it.

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How do you or your family deal with this new aspect of life? Let us know in the comments, you may help someone else gain new perspective.

Here’s to a Happy Life! 🍻

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The Twelve Days of Christmas – Day 9 1/2

We often wish that our parents and grandparents had kept a written account of their childhood for future generations.

Day 9 1/2 – Write – Our 12 Days of Christmas are written to help you find serenity during this hectic holiday season. Keeping a diary is a wonderful way to not only reflect back on your day and express gratitude but to preserve your history for future generations.

Our advice would be to keep a separate piece of paper nearby if you feel the need to vent, then destroy it just as soon as you’re done. No need to save that for prosperity’s sake.

The journal should include names, whether they are a friend or a relative, dates and the experiences you shared.

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We’d love to know how our childhood Christmases were different from our grandmothers.

I know that my parents grew up during the Great Depression so they usually received a hand-carved toy, rarely was it painted. On really good years they also received an orange. I don’t know if anyone came to visit, what they had for Christmas dinner, if Santa Claus was a fixture in their childhood.

Mom as Santa

Writing about everything you are grateful for helps improve your attitude.

Purchase a beautifully bound journal, have everyone in the family write a memory in it, add a few pictures, pass it down through the generations. Or start a private family blog where everyone can add their memories. Family members can read it anytime they like.

Documenting your family history is a truly a gift that keeps on giving.

 

 

 

 

Welcome Back!

It’s fall. Where did the year go? It seems the older you get the quicker time flies. It doesn’t really, of course, we just pay more attention then when we were young. We cherish life a little more each day and that’s a good thing, there’s still have so much to experience!

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We are at an age when our kids still depend on us to help with what we can (let’s face it, that will never change!) There are weddings and babies and jobs and new homes and well, just life.

We find that friends, family and…. you are important. We have talked to a lot of people in our age group, men and women who are taking a step back trying to refocus on life and what it really means.

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Our focus this coming year will be on what we’ve heard and what we’ve learned…

And adding new experiences; we’ve had great lives so far, although not without a learning curve, from here on out we are simply enhancing it.

Cause your never to old to learn!!

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Here’s to a Happy Life!!
MaryBeth and Sherry. 🙂

Light Box House

S – My kids are a tad too old for this and my grandson is only 2 months but I am gonna save this idea for when he gets bigger!  So cool, I wish I would have had something like this fun tent when I was young, ok fine, I would like it now….I have issues with white twinkle lights.  Looks so easy to make, a cardboard box and some white lights. Easy smeezy!  You could also draw on it or let the kids do their own art work. Would be a fun thing to do for a sleep over.

MB- I’d love to do this! I can sometimes be a craft overachiever, I’d probably end up building a mansion and then add a small house for the stuffed animals!  Hm, I may have to do just that.
Found It on Pinterest, thank you Life As Mama.

My little bunny

Wow, what a wonderful experience! I got to be in the room while my daughter gave birth to my first grandchild. My grandson was born yesterday morning on probably the coldest day of the year so far, it wasn’t cold in that room though, the emotions and love made it very toasty. I am just in awe and actually having a tough time coming up with the words I want to say about this miracle. There is another little human being in this world and he is a part of our family. Couldn’t wipe the smile from my face or the tears from my eyes when seeing him for the first time.

He is now home from the hospital so the games have begun! My daughter called me yesterday to come help! When I got there mommy and daddy looked very stressed and over tired. Welcome to parenthood! It’s so true what everyone says. Much more fun to be the grandparent. I get to hold him and love him and go home to bed and get my much needed sleep. My daughter text me this morning to let me know she feels much better today. She got a whopping four hours of sleep. Yes, having kids is for young people. I would have called crying!

They have been asking me what I want to be called by the baby. The other grandma picked Nana. I don’t know. When did we start coming up with names other than grandma and grandpa? I have heard all sorts of names from Nana to Oma and nothing seems to sound right. People keep telling me I don’t look old enough to be a grandma (thank you!). Anyone have any ideas for names for someone who doesn’t want to feel like she’s one hundred?

Waiting For My Grandbaby

S is going to be a Grandma!

My daughter is due with her first baby, like yesterday. Needless to say, she is now frustrated. The doctors tell her the baby will come when it’s ready. That’s obviously not what she wants to hear.

In all fairness, I went a week and a half over with her and so I feel her pain. Every day friends and family call or text her to ask if the baby is here yet. Which makes her even more frustrated, I try not to laugh because I am remembering how irritating that was.

I also have to admit that I keep wanting to know how she is because I am so excited to have a grand baby. What a weird feeling, very soon I am going to be a grandma.

Geez. Was it that long ago that I was rocking my kids to sleep, getting them ready for bed, getting them ready for school?I guess it has been. Oh well, time goes on but the good news is that I get a baby in the family that I get to hold and kiss and love and give back to mommy when it poos!!

Can’t wait :).

Anyone have any stories to tell on being a grandma? Would love to hear what to expect!!