Monthly Archives: March 2016

How To Be Interesting?

I recently came across a book titled “How To Be Interesting” or something to that effect. I only vaguely remember the cover and title, I have no idea who the actual author is.

I thumbed through the book quickly to get an idea of its contents and/or ideas. Some of the suggestions were eavesdrop, maintain eye contact, smile or laugh easily and often.

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There are whole blogs to be written on just those 3 suggestions, so just a quick note. While eavesdropping is considered to be rude, often in tightly packed places, it is unavoidable. The author’s point was that you can learn a lot about someone this way and then engage them in conversation based on what you overheard. I’d proceed cautiously with this one.

Maintaining eye contact is consider rude in some cultures and is known to make some people very uncomfortable. However, in a one on one conversation with someone you know this would definitely indicate that you are actively engaged.

As to smile or laugh easily and often, it may well make you interesting as people will wonder what you are up to! They may even be inclined to come over to you and ask. That would be interesting.

In my opinion one of the best way to be interesting is quite simple – Be a Listener. When someone talks to you, LISTEN. If you truly listen to what someone is saying to you, then you can respond appropriately and start a good give and take. Now you are both involved and interested!

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It seems obvious to me that most of us want someone to listen to us. Obvious because isn’t the dominance social media the perfect indicator of this need?

We strive through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Whisper among others to voice our opinions, our emotions, our concerns. Likes, comments, re-tweets, etc are indicators of our success in being heard. Social Media is here to stay, but it’s impersonal for the most part.

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Social media means I can’t watch your facial expressions or catch you at an unguarded moment. I can’t feel your energy nor hear your laughter. Do you need a hug? I’d rather do that in person not by liking and sharing. Wouldn’t my being there in person to interact with you make both of us much more interesting?

What do you think makes others interesting? Let us know in the comments, we’d truly like to know.

 

Here’s to a happy life!

MaryBeth & Sherry

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The Importance of Girlfriends

Taking a short vacation with your girlfriends should be a mandatory once a year excursion, although who would argue with taking several a year?

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We recently returned from a 3-day trip to La Jolla, CA. Eight women in a 3-bedroom house with ocean views within walking distance of beaches, shops and restaurants. It was heavenly.
Each of us is on a different life journey right now, which makes the camaraderie of girlfriends even more uplifting. Being with your girlfriends gives you the freedom to express feelings you may not otherwise be able to.

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Advice, laughter, good food and a few drinks helps to create great experiences and a lifetime of memories.

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Friends give you the courage to try things you wouldn’t ordinarily try. For MaryBeth, that was ocean kayaking. A singularly terrifying proposition, I was buoyed by the fact that there were 2 life guards and a very experienced kayaker in the group. With their promises to keep me safe, out we went. I am so happy that I tried it and guarantee you it will never happen again.

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We had two items to take care of before arriving, 1) bring a small inexpensive gift for each member of the group; 2) bring a picture of yourself at age 18-20. The pictures brought laughter, compliments and a lot of “look at my hair!”

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The gifts were fun way to break the ice and well thought out. Satin eye masks with witty sayings, linen spray, a RFID wallet, a travel journal, a small jar for sand and shells, and a tiny metal starfish reminding us to be grateful for our journeys. Each gift received was embraced and the giver complimented for the thought they had put into it.

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Friends who rejoice in your accomplishments, boost your ego and refrain from the negative create a rejuvenating experience. They remind us there is a time for every season whether it be silly or serious and above all, a time to boost each other up with an understanding that is often missing in our every day lives.

Thank you ladies, it was a blast!

Here’s to a Happy Life! ☀️

MaryBeth & Sherry

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