Everyone has times of self-doubt, for a woman over 50, it can hit often due to our ever-fluctuating hormones. We look in the mirror and see wrinkles instead of character. We step on the scale and beat ourselves up for putting on a few. A family member makes a remark and we see it as harsh criticism and so much more.

Today a beautiful woman told me that “menopause memory” makes her feel so stupid, something she had never consider herself before. And there you have your 50’s in a nutshell, we begin to see ourselves so differently, often so negatively. We’d like to propose an alternative.

Let’s delight in the 50 or so years that we have survived on this earth. Let’s look back on our lessons with gratitude and focus on what’s beautiful. What would that be you ask? YOU! You are beautiful!

Let’s use our hard-earned wisdom, even if it takes a moment to come back to us. So what? It is often said that it is best to pause before we speak. We should thank our brain for helping us with this.

When we put on our bifocals, we’ll be grateful that they allow us to see deeper and clearer, to read between the lines.

Jeans tight? Whatever! There are a myriad of reasons why this might be, far more than the overeating and lack of exercise excuses.

Did someone make a kind suggestion that could be construed as otherwise. Say thank you! Thank you for caring enough about me to try and help me. Thank you for showing me how much you value me. Thank you for letting me know you are an ass.

Delight in age and all it entails. I want to grab this bull by the horns and run with it! I am slowly learning how to focus on the positive, point out that the best is yet to come and go for it!

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How do you focus on the positive? What’s your next goal? Which negative stereotypes would you like to debunk?